Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Thursday, September 8, 2011

utah hills (4 of 13).jpg

utah hills  (4 of 13).jpg by jruda8
utah hills (4 of 13).jpg, a photo by jruda8 on Flickr.

Today I was drinking coffee and thinking about coffee. And looking at the beautiful photo above (copyright James Ruda). This led me to think about the simple pleasures in life. What I mean is, those moments when you're so present and so aware that being in the moment is positively intoxicating.

In positive psychology, this is sometimes referred to as a state of "flow." As the ever-reliable Wikipedia tells us: "Flow is the mental state of operation in which a person in an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and success in the process of the activity. Proposed by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, the positive psychology concept has been widely referenced across a variety of fields.[1]


According to Csíkszentmihályi, flow is completely focused motivation. It is a single-minded immersion and represents perhaps the ultimate in harnessing the emotions in the service of performing and learning. In flow, the emotions are not just contained and channeled, but positive, energized, and aligned with the task at hand. To be caught in the ennui of depression or the agitation of anxiety is to be barred from flow. The hallmark of flow is a feeling of spontaneous joy, even rapture, while performing a task[2]


I've noticed that I often experience this state of flow while doing "flow" series in yoga. Coincedence? I think not. I believe that one of the aims of yoga is to cultivate this state of being. As I practice being peaceful and aware throughout a 90 minute or so practice, this awareness can begin to trickle into other areas of my life.

It seems to me that there is almost something mystical about being in a state of flow, whether that is on or off the mat. At any moment, when I am living in peace, everything seems to just click. Amazing ideas come to me. The right people show up. Everything that I need is provided to me. Work doesn't feel like work. It just feels like another action through which to express love.

yoga in provo, UT here!

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Lighting Incense (or Learning Patience)


I want to learn to love and to worship,
To blow the flame out and let it burn slowly,
Feeling no hurry for the rose-scented smoke to rise
and perfume the room.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

On Relationships

We had another blissful fifteen hour weekend of yoga immersion teacher training this last weekend. In honor of the current life situations of the students, we discussed LOVE.

My instructor and guru, Syl Carson, expressed her belief that love is a mirror. We fall in love with our own image projected onto others. When we love our partner's compassion, we are really seeing and loving our own capacity for compassion.

Likewise, when there is something about our partner that drives us crazy, while they may really posses that quality, it drives us crazy because it is a trait that describes ourselves. For example, if I was enraged to see my partner sitting in front of the TV, it is really my own denied idleness that enrages me.

In a love relationship, we make an unspoken agreement to see in each other the divine love that we have for ourselves. Doing so allows us to feel safe in understanding our love for ourselves. We make an agreement to do this for one another. Our partner therefore becomes a placeholder for divine love.

This is why it is so scary to be abandoned by a lover. We then feel unable to know the Divine's love for us.

Ultimately, I would like to be able to see myself as God (God being an all-encompassing term) sees me. As Syl said, “If I can love myself as God loves me, then I have intoxication of self-love!”

Doing this takes the fear out of love, and removes the fear from being alone.

So kiss yourself.

Namaste

*Rebecca Sky*